When life was just about day-to-day survival and I wasn’t feeling very creative, I knew I needed to do something to get un-stuck. Four years of deeply wading through the weight of everything that was keeping me in survival mode, praying for hope and joy despite my circumstances, and trying to discover what my unique purpose was, and something finally started to grow in me. It started with me determining to let go of anything that was weighing me down.
First, I got some counseling to uncover the root of my anxiety and start working on better ways to cope with stress. Soapbox moment: I wish everyone thought of counseling as normal and ok, like a tuneup on your car, instead of viewing it as a stigma. (BTW, if you think you just can’t afford a counselor, there are sometimes scholarship programs available. You might have to do some digging, but you’re worth the effort! There are also low-fee options like TalkSpace, $25 for a month and be able to text a counselor when you need. Michael Phelps shares his experience with therapy here: at Talkspace ).
We all have issues (like the pressurizing problem of perfectionism) and limiting beliefs. It’s not a mark of failure, but of wisdom to ask for help to get you optimized.
and having an unbiased individual to help sort them out is kind of like hiring a professional organizer who helps you declutter and put things in a more ideal setup.
Speaking of which, back before I ever heard of Konmari, I thought I needed to get my house organized, because my mess was overwhelming me. That ushered me into the idea of decluttering, which ushered me into the realm of minimalism (which, for me, isn’t a strict set of rules, but rather the idea of not keeping more than I can deal with without overwhelm, and only what adds value and beauty to our lives.) Which is where I am now, trying my utmost to live intentionally.
Intentionality changed me from somebody who could barely peel herself out of bed in the morning at 8 a.m., who dreaded the sound of busy little bodies awake before me (although I love them dearly), and had little to no structure in my day to someone who is awake closer to 5 a.m., who has goals for the day and longer term, and a plan to achieve them. It changed me from someone who thought it would be a good idea to exercise to someone who regularly walks a mile (and sometimes my kids do it with me). It changed me from someone who thought I’d like to paint more to someone who gets out the paints and creates.
Intentionality starts with better habits, which create momentum.
As a SAHM, recognizing I’m the CEO and in charge of the way my life and home works has been key to changing what I didn’t like and what wasn’t working. We all have the same amount of hours in our days, so learning better time management (essentially self-management) has been essential for awakening a dream in me. Putting plans into place for better health and productivity has reduced overwhelm and given me the space to be creative. I feel less like I’m surviving and more like I’m on my way to truly thriving creatively again. My dream is being able to encourage others to do the same, because it’s powerfully and literally life-changing.
Leave a comment (scroll allll the way down on this post) sharing your dream and one thing you could do to get started on it! If you don’t have one yet, share what’s weighing you down from getting there, and if you have a step to take to overcome it today!